3 Thoughts That Helped Me Handle Natural, Unmedicated Labor

I super loved giving birth. There were moments during my 26 hour labor where love would not have been my word of choice, but looking back, I can confidently say I loved giving birth. It was one of the best and most challenging experiences.

To sum it up quickly, because this isn’t really a post about the birth, I will give a few stats for need to know. I did most of my laboring at home, about 18 hours. I wanted to avoid the hospital and their “hospital procedures” as long as possible. I arrived at the hospital about 7 cm dilated, and spent the next 8 hours getting to 10 cm. I did not get an epidural or any pain medication. I also opted out of being hooked up to an IV or having constant fetal monitoring.

It was a long labor. There were moments where I nearly gave up. Ha, except we don’t really have that choice? There were a lot of things that kept me going, but I had three very intentional thoughts going into labor that I know greatly helped me cope and achieve the natural birth I wanted.

Thought #1:  The Pain Is a Privilege  

I never really had a fear of the pain of childbirth. Women are really strong. Sometimes period pain is bad and there’s no reward at the end of the pain. I was pretty sure I could handle the pain. Turns out, labor is as crazy painful as they say, just needing to put that out there. Crazy painful. But a thought that really helped me handle the pain was remembering how this pain is a privilege.

I really wanted to give birth naturally. No pain meds, no epidural, just my body doing what it was created to do.

I know there are women who can’t get pregnant. Women who can’t stay pregnant. I know there are women who must have emergency surgery to deliver their babies. So I knew going into labor, if I was fortunate enough to be experiencing the pain of childbirth that it was a good thing and there was no way I was going to complain about the pain.

I don’t know the pain of infertility or the pain of miscarriage but I imagine they must be drastically worse.

This pain had a purpose. This pain meant my baby was on his way. And that is a privilege.

Thought #2 – It’ll Be Over So Quick, So Enjoy It 

My labor was 26 hours. So at the time it didn’t feel quick. But it was just one day on a calendar.

This pain is temporary. This experience will be over quickly. I didn’t want to miss it, you know? I wanted to feel it all and experience it all. I wanted to smile and laugh and keep my sense of humor as long as possible.

I wanted to make God and Dillon proud of how I handled birthing this baby.

I knew the pain wouldn’t last forever, and I wanted to fully experience childbirth while it was happening. This helped keep my head in the right mindset. To keep me calm and know that babies all come out eventually.

Thought #3 – I’m Not Alone

My pregnancy was a huge walk of faith with God. So from day one of this pregnancy, I felt God with me every step. So I knew He would be right with me during labor. Once contractions started really picking up, I told Dillon to start playing Pandora. Worship music, I requested. He chose the Lauren Daigle station. Worship music delivers the Holy Spirit so well.

I also had Dillon with me. I needed his strength. I had my birth doula with me. I needed her support. I depended on their words of encouragement. I depended on their faces. I depended on eye contact. I depended on their touch.

Towards the end of the labor, when things were getting really crazy, I could listen, look around, and feel that I was not alone. My own strength alone would have only taken me so far.

My thoughts have an annoying habit of running away from me, and I knew the devil might try and sneak a few discouraging thoughts in my head, so I am really glad I decided to pregame what intentional thoughts I would cling to during childbirth.

I used those three thoughts to handle labor.  And, of course, I used the thought of finally getting to meet my baby and find out if baby was a boy or girl!

Did you have any specific thoughts that helped you bring your baby into this world? 
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Our DIY Maternity Photoshoot

I would have loved to have professional pictures of this special time in our marriage. But, I have not done enough with our engagement/wedding photos and I could not justify spending money on more professional photos.

Instead, I decided our backyard would be great. I love using our fence as a backdrop for photos. I brought out some fall decorations, our selfie stick, and this was the result. My husband is cleverer than I am, and realized we can take the remote off the selfie stick. So if you look closely, or sometimes it’s pretty obvious, either him or I have the remote in our hand taking the photos. Here are some we captured. Enjoy!

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In this photo I’m being attacked by red ants and Dillon is trying to get Mattie girl to jump up for the photo. Action shot.

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I was pretty terribly at hiding the remote. Oops!

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Introducing Mattie to the Baby Bump. She really hates being carried and gets all awkward.

Maternity Photo Mattie Jump

“It’s a ball! Oh wait, it’s just a pumpkin.”

(Behind the scenes tidbit – her tennis ball is on the fence too, but she’s covering it up in this photo. Once we saw how high she was getting we decided to stop immediately before Baby Girl learned to jump the fence…)

It’s crazy to think about how our next photo session will have Baby Mowdy in it. Actually most photos from here on out will probably have Baby Mowdy in them. Now that I’m home all day, I send Dillon at least one picture of Mattie a day. I’m sure he’s prepared for me to be blowing-up his phone with even more photos.

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Why I Love My “Haunted” Due Date

Pumpkin Due Date

“When was the first day of your last period?” she asked me.

“December 31st.”   It was easy to remember because Dillon, Mattie, and I were camping for New Years. It’s always fun getting your period on vacation at a campsite.

“Ok, that would mean your baby’s due date is,” she paused for a moment as she typed in the information to the nifty due-date calculator, “October 6th.” 

“October 6th?” I asked for clarification.

“Yup,” she smiled. “It’ll be here before you know it.”

October 6th. October 6th. October 6th. Don’t panic, Katie. October 6th?

I glanced over at Dillon for a minute as if to say with my facial expression, that’s a pretty slim chance! Is this okay? But he didn’t seem phased by the date October 6th like I was. I had a million thoughts going through my mind. Is that a bad thing? A good thing? What does that mean? Should I get upset? Am I upset? October 6th has been a date on the calendar that brings me back to one of the most difficult seasons in my life. It’s one of those dates so full of pain that no matter how many years go by you can still remember so clearly how the events played out. I can very clearly remember all the terrible images and hear the terrible sounds that happened one year on October 6th because October 6th is the day my mother ended her life.

My baby’s due date is my mom’s death date.

Definitely not the most devastating news to find out at the doctor’s office, but I had to decide for me personally if I was going to let this molehill become a mountain. I am happy to say I fairly quickly decided no. It initially shook me, but I was not going to let this become a thing.

And then the more I thought about it, the more excited I got about it. If I wasn’t so awkward at it, I would have winked at God because here’s what I realized.

God can and does give new life to all things.  Even a date on the calendar. Yes, many years ago on October 6th, my family came home and our lives changed forever. October 6, 1997 instantly changed my nine-year old self. It flooded me with new fears that I hadn’t known before. It was not a good day in my life.

But that is in the past. October 6th doesn’t forever have to be something that affects me so negatively. God took that date and now October 6th has become one of the most happily anticipated dates of my life. Our Baby may be arriving October 6th! That’s a pretty miraculous make-over to the previously death stained October 6th.

Baby Mowdy’s expected arrival is bringing new life where death once was.  Thank God. 

Another reason I love our haunted due date is because it let me take a stand against the enemy. I could have chosen to dwell in the sadness and past. I heard the enemy try to persuade me to take a stroll down ol’ self-pity lane. The enemy tried to get me to let my mind wonder and focus on the hurt instead of the happy. Well, nice try, devil, but I will not let this upset me or this pregnancy. I’ve come too far on my walk with God to let this bring me down.

I intend to enjoy this baby and pregnancy despite my past. I am so happy about our little October 6th pumpkin.

I couldn’t think of a better due date for this baby.

 

 

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Pregnancy Update

Still on maternity leave and still loving it. Here’s an update on to-do list. 

  • Prewash All of Baby’s Clothes, Blankets, and Towels   Everything is washed, hung up or folded, and ready to go. We really don’t have many clothes since we don’t know if Baby is a he or she.

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  • Pack a Hospital Bag      I read a lot of Pinterest lists on what you actually need to bring to the hospital.  
  • Pack a Labor/Birth Food Bag  –  I have a bag in the refrigerator  and a bag in the pantry. Lots of snacks just incase the hospital doesn’t have great options. 
  • Decorate The Nursery, Slowly And Without Pressure  – Ummm, nothing has been added. Poor Baby won’t have a cute nursery like the other babies. That’s okay. 
  • Eat Dates  – Yes and no. They are super super sweet and I can only handle so many a day. 
  • Get truck washed and vacuumed   I took it to a car wash place and they found Dillon’s wedding ring that has been missing for a few months. I cleaned out the truck before I took it, so they are pretty thorough. He had already bought a replacement ring though. His rings are about $15 from Amazon.
  • Install carseat   Dillon did it.
  • Build bassinet     Dillon did it.
  • Build crib     Dillon did it.

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  • Rest whenever I feel like it  Oh, yes! I take a nap after lunch almost every day.
  • Sew boppy pillow covers I didn’t really care for any of the covers that are available in stores. They have a really limited selection. Etsy sells some really cute ones, but because they are handmade they are quite pricy. I panicked for a minute on what I would do, but then I remembered I know how to sew and have a ton of fabric waiting to be used up. My cover is not quite as tight as a store bought cover would be and I didn’t realize I cut the fabric so it would be upside down on the pillow when I’m nursing, but it’s good enough for Baby and me. I am super anxious to visit a fabric store and make some more. boppy pillow
  • Organize and clean out nursery   It’s not cute but it’s not cluttered. 😉 
  • Stock up the changing table 
  • Add fall decorations to the house   Yup. I had a very fun trip to Michaels.

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  • Put up photos   – Sigh, not yet. I have hardly any photos of us throughout the house. I spent a good amount of money on our engagement/wedding photos and I need to display at least one.
  • Write out encouraging scriptures to read while in labor   I have them on post-its.
  • Watch all 10 days of Code Orange Revival    – So good. If you didn’t watch it, you can look them up on youtube or the Elevation Church app.
  •  Read –  I read every night before bed because I can’t fall asleep until about midnight or later (my afternoon naps) and Dillon needs to be in bed by 10 at the latest because he gets up so early for work.
  • Keep the house clean  – Super happy to say my house has been presentable all week long. Come on over surprise visitors because my kitchen is sparkly, the pillows are positioned, and all dog hair has been vacuumed up.
  • Enjoy/spoil Dillon  –  I can’t get enough of him right now. I hope and pray that I won’t turn on him during labor. I hope and pray that we will be kind to each other when the late nights are tough and the baby cries are loud.
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A friend of mine sent me a super cute picture like this one except I didn’t make the effort to get a real pumpkin from the store so I had Dillon use the fake small one I got from Michaels. Close enough! 

  • Trust God – Each and every day. Lead me Lord, keep me in your will.

Most everything that should be done before Baby arrives has been done. I am in no huge hurry yet for Baby to pop out. Baby is old enough now that anytime would be safe. We are as ready as we can be. Each week I get a little bit slower and the activities I used to do with ease are noticeably more challenging, but I have not reached the point where being pregnant is so uncomfortable I cannot stand another day.

At 39 weeks pregnant, I’m not really anxious to get a lot of errands done. Driving has become annoying for me because sitting in the driver’s seat makes it feel like Baby is crawling up my ribs, so I am not planning on doing very much. Instead, I am focusing on the following things until Baby joins the Mowdy family.

  • Eat to have strength for when labor comes
  • Rest to have strength for when labor comes
  • Walk to have strength for when labor comes 
  • Pray to have strength and wisdom and peace for when labor comes
  • Keep the house clean so I’m not upset or distracted when labor comes
  • Laugh and enjoy the ups and downs of being pregnant 
  • Savor these last few days as just husband and wife 

Basically my mind is focused on labor.

 

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Update On Maternity Leave To Do List

37 weeks

I tackled my to-do list the best this nine months pregnant woman could. My pregnancy, praise God, has been very smooth but this extra 27 pounds makes it a little more difficult to get around at my normal pace. I have minor complaints but nothing that is extreme or can’t be fixed with some couch time and Netflix.  The hardest thing I am facing right now is shopping at large stores. Yesterday at the grocery store I only spent $18 because I was so ready to leave.

So while I haven’t quite finished everything I would like to get done before baby arrives, I am feeling more confident by the progress I did make.

  • Buy All The Boring Baby Stuff
  • Finish Maternity Leave/Disability Paperwork 
  • Buy All the Gear I’ll Need for My Body’s Recovery After Birth 
  • Pre-Register At The Hospital
  • Return/Exchange/Donate Extra Baby Supplies 
  • Order a Breast Pump  
  • Possibly Take Maternity Photos – If So, Find An Outfit 
  • Keep the House Clean 
  • Finalize Baby Name Choices 
  • Prewash All of Baby’s Clothes, Blankets, and Towels
  • Pack a Hospital Bag  
  • Pack a Labor/Birth Food Bag 
  • Decorate The Nursery, Slowly And Without Pressure 
  • Eat Dates 

Adding to my to-do list this week —

  • Get truck washed and vacuumed 
  • Install carseat 
  • Build bassinet  
  • Build crib 
  • Rest whenever I feel like it 
  • Sew boppy pillow covers 
  • Organize and clean out nursery 
  • Stock up the changing table 
  • Add fall decorations to the house
  • Put up photos 
  • Write out encouraging scriptures to read while in labor 
  • Watch all 10 days of Code Orange Revival  
  • Continue to read
  • Continue to keep the house clean 
  • Continue to enjoy/spoil Dillon
  • Continue to trust God

A few of my to-dos are things I need Dillon’s help with or are just things that would be nice to get done if I have the energy. My main priorities are to pray for guidance, listen to what my body needs, love my husband, and keep my house clean for when baby comes home.

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BBQ and Baby Talk

BBQ & Baby Talk

I knew I did not want a typical baby shower at our house. I am not super great at being the center of attention. I start to sweat, get all hot, and my face turns red. In fact, before our BBQ began I made sure to pray and ask God to help me relax, remember the reason people are coming, and just enjoy the day.

Also, opening gifts in front of people makes me uncomfortable and I think I overdue my gratitude expressions to make sure the people know how much I appreciate the gifts. The thought of Dillon helping me open gifts sounded great! So I knew I wanted a co-ed shower for sure.

While I’m not a huge fan of being the center of attention in a large group of people, what I do love is having people over (for a set amount of time…#introvert), having people taste how great of a chef my husband is, and having one-on-one conversations with family members and friends. I also love showing off my big pregnant belly. Gaining weight may be my favorite thing so far about pregnancy. I keep telling Dillon, “I ain’t loosing the baby weight!” Although knowing my body, I imagine my extra weight will melt right off the day the baby is born.

BBQ Baby Showers are very popular right now, so I decided that it was the route I would like to take in celebrating sweet Baby Mowdy. Because it’s not about the gifts or the food or the decorations. God gifted my husband and I with a sweet baby and that little miracle should be celebrated among family and friends.

Card making

I love making invitations by hand with scrapbooking supplies. Luckily, I over bought scrapbooking supplies a few years ago and the only purchase I had to make for the invitations were the envelopes and blank cards. I made our wedding invitations and Christmas cards by hand, as well. I always look on Shutterfly and all those websites, but I can’t ever find one that feels right. What feels right is a huge scrapbooking paper mess spread out all over the living room.

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I’m pretty fast and efficient when it comes to paper crafts, so it really isn’t that big of a undertaking. It also makes me feel productive while watching an episode of The Office on Netflix for the 4th time.

I always try to include a few things with each card I send out. I always stamp the back of the invitation with a Made With Love stamp I got off of Etsy. I also always wrap the envelope with washi tape. Where was washi tape when I was a kid? I would have washi taped EVERYTHING.

Since we weren’t going to play the typical baby shower games, but I still wanted our guests to have something to interact with, I set up three stations.

Guess Baby Mowdy’s Birthday

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Most people participated in this one. Boy is definitely the popular vote and one week early is the popular date. This Mama still needs to write her guess down.

Advice For Mama and Daddy

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Only 6 people did this. I wasted a lot of ink and washi tape… Oh well, it was super fun reading the ones that did fill it out.

Late Night Diapers

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People didn’t really get into this one either. Oh well, but once again super fun to read the ones who did participate.

My step mother took a ton of photos on her camera, but I don’t have any of those yet. I only took one bathroom selfie after everyone had gone home.  Ignore the toilet… And I’m 34 weeks pregnant in this photo. 

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Overall, our BBQ and Baby Talk was a great success. Dillon and I were beyond grateful for everyone who came and showered Baby will love.

Also, a  special shout out also to my Bible study group and co-workers, who each through me a baby shower also. Three parties to celebrate Baby was way more than this mama expected. I feel so loved and supported.

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Well, Hello There, Maternity Leave

I am now 36 weeks pregnant and officially on maternity leave! Can I get a hallelujah, can I get an amen?  🙂 

35 Weeks Pregnant

A huge weight has been lifted. If I am unable to get comfortable or sleep at all during the night, I have peace of mind that I can rest later instead of panicking about how I’ll make it through another work day. I can eat when I need to, pee when I need to, and lay down when I need to. I can also go barefoot which helps a lot with keeping any swelling down. I am so thankful for this maternity leave.

Baby Mowdy will be arriving in about 4 weeks (give or take) and even though this mama has had all summer to prep, we recently had our BBQ and Baby Showers, so now there’s a lot of unpacking and building to do. If baby arrives early we could find ways to manage, but I’m hoping Baby keeps baking so I can get things a little more in order.

Maternity Leave To Do List:

  • Buy All The Boring Baby Stuff –  We need to get a crib mattress, a bassinet for the bedroom, sheets, mattress pads, etc.
  • Finish Maternity Leave/Disability Paperwork 
  • Buy All the Gear I’ll Need for My Body’s Recovery After Birth – Women are tough.
  • Pre-Register At The Hospital
  • Return/Exchange/Donate Extra Baby Supplies 
  • Pack a Hospital Bag 
  • Decorate The Nursery, Slowly And Without Pressure  – We do not have a cute nursery yet. I did one really adorable thing in the nursery and that is what I focus on if I start to panic about not having a photo worthy nursery. Baby steps are how this nursery will be designed. I’m giving myself a lot of grace here because we are trying to save as much money as possible knowing that my paychecks will be sliced pretty thin. Also, my husband and I are both naturally savers over spenders. We will randomly make a large purchase, but both have a difficult time spending money on unnecessary items.  Dillon also gets a little sick to his stomach when our bank account goes below a certain number, and I don’t want him stressing over money during this exciting new season in our life. There are many ways to decorate a nursery on a budget, so I will be spending some time on Pinterest these next couple weeks before this basketball baby arrives.
    BabyBookshelfThis is my one thing. A single bookshelf with books mostly free from Scholastic or friends. Eventually I’d like the whole wall decorated.
  • Prewash All of Baby’s Clothes, Blankets, and Towels 
  • Order a Breast Pump  
  • Pack a Labor/Birth Food Bag I don’t know how I will feel about eating during labor, but incase I need some fuel to keep me going I want to make sure that food is waiting patiently in the house and not at the grocery store.
  • Don’t Eat The Food in the Labor/Birth Food Bag 
  • Possibly Take Maternity Photos – If So, Find An Outfit 
  • Keep the House Clean My housekeeping skills leave much to be desired. I have a pretty bad clutter reputation to overcome, and I was recently hated on about how messy my house was by some relatives. This hurt pretty badly for two reasons. One, there is truth to it. And two, because I have been really trying to keep a cleaner house, but sometimes I’m just not sure where the mess comes from. More on that in a later post…
  • Spend As Much Time Enjoying/Spoiling My Husband As Possible  –  I have no idea how a baby will change our marriage. I’m imagining the level of joy and love will sky-rocket. But I’m also imagining us facing some difficult times as we get adjusted to our new roles as Mama and Daddy. I want to pregame for these difficult times with as much love now as possible.  Ooo, Imma blame the messy house on that.
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  • Finalize Baby Name Choices – Since we are waiting to find out the sex, we need one for each. Honestly, we already have them and I love them both equally, but this gives me something huge to mark off my to-do list.
  • Read 
  • Eat Dates – I’ve read about them helping with labor and delivery.
  • Remember I’m Not in Charge, God Is In Charge
    Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.  – Philippians 4:6-7.  

 

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Our Babymoon

Our babymoon last week was as sweet as they come. We are fortunate to live only about two hours away from California’s beautiful central coast. Dillon and I packed up his dad’s toy hauler RV and headed west to spend 6 days camping. His grandmother has shares at a Pismo RV spot, so we really lucked out and didn’t have to pay for much besides food and gas.

Our Sweet, Simple BABYmoon

We didn’t really plan this as an official babymoon, it was more of a getaway vacation for us, but since I happened to be 6 months pregnant at the time, I’m calling it our official babymoon. I don’t really have many pictures from our 6 day getaway because I didn’t carry my purse or anything around with me. Thankfully Dillon always had his phone with him (possibly had something to do with that new Pokemon game…) and snapped a few pictures of our trip.

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We went kayaking in Morro Bay one day. Well, to be honest, Dillon did all the work. I just plopped my pregnant butt down and tried to conserve my energy for the rest of the day. Mattie Girl sat in the middle of the kayak.
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Across the bay there’s a small beach we like to stop at and play a bit. Mattie clearly LOVED her new toy.

There’s a Thai restaurant in Morro Bay we adore — they have gluten-free curry and a dog friendly patio. So it’s pretty much a guarantee that we go there at least once when we visit the coast. The rest of our days were filled with a lot of sweet, simple activities mixed in with some much needed rest for Dillon — (this teacher has non-stop rest June, July, and August! Woot Woot!!) — but for Dillon this was his break from work.

I’ve told him he needs to rethink his decision of not becoming a teacher. We could travel like this all summer long.

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The RV camp we stayed at was great walking distance away from Pismo’s downtown and pier. Dillon would ride his bike in the morning to grab a cup of coffee at the cutest coffee shop called The Orange Cat Cafe.

It was so wonderful to spend time with Dillon before the baby comes. Since I don’t have many more pictures from our getaway babymoon, I’ll list a few memories.

  • We took our niece to San Luis’s drive-in theater to watch The Secret Life of Pets. LOVED the first half. Not sure what happened or who took over the writing for the second half…
  • I got to baby talk a bunch with my sister-in-law. She just had her baby boy.
  • We walked a TON. And it felt so good to get my pregnant body moving. It is too hot where we live to go out on walks during the day, so the 70 degree weather was so refreshing.
  • We went to San Luis’s farmers market — it’s a pretty big event and it did not disappoint. I bought some amazing peaches and mandarins and… 4 gluten-free donuts. The fruit was more satisfying (real food always is) but it’s so cool to find gluten-free donuts!
  • Dillon, the family chef, cooked a crab boil and we had family over to share the meal.
  • I didn’t wash any dishes last week! We paper plated it all week and it was fabulous.
  • Normally, I hate watching TV on vacation, but we did RedBox Miracles in Heaven and watch it in the RV one night. That movie is so good. Love, love, love it.
  • Being 6 months pregnant, I did have to pee constantly on this vacation. I didn’t care what any public bathroom looked like, if I had to pee I had to pee. Dillon, watching me suffer, had a sudden new appreciation for his ability to pee discretely whenever he needed to. I tried not to glare with envy when he took advantage of that man perk.
  • My heartburn also started to act up a little bit on this trip. When I couldn’t sleep or even lay down in bed, my sweet husband went on late night walks around the RV campsite with me until my food better settled. — San Luis also has gluten-free pizza and I may have over eaten it… YUM!
  • Our RV spot doesn’t allow campfires, so we drove out to the dunes and had a couple fires. We had a fire on our last night there and it was the perfect way to end the week.

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I couldn’t help but fantasize about what our next trip to the beach will look like with a baby in tow. It used to be just the two of us and then we added Mattie to the mix and some things changed. Mostly for the better. A little baby in tow will change our vacations for sure, but I’m thinking it will also be mostly for the better.

 

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Our Reasons for Waiting to Find Out Our Baby’s Gender

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For the first 19 weeks, Dillon was completely on board for waiting to find out the sex until the baby’s big arrival. I noticed the change in his attitude after we had our first ultrasound at 20 weeks along. Before my belly even had the goo on it, I was telling the ultrasound technician, “We don’t want to know the gender! We want to be surprised! We don’t want to know the gender…” I said it repeatedly just for insurance.

She was great. Throughout the entire ultrasound she kept baby’s genitals far away from our confused eyes.

Eventually she had to tell us, “I’m checking the baby down there now so this is when you’ll want to look away.”

No problem. I happily turned and looked at Dillon thinking to myself, surprise are so fun, only to discover he was peeking! He was trying his hardest to decipher penis or vagina. Thankfully the combination of my hand waving to block his vision plus the difficult-to-read ultrasound left him clueless.

I secretly believe Dillon secretly believed he was going to be able to read the ultrasound and find out for himself.

So, he only has two reasons for waiting to find out the sex.

Husband’s Reason For Waiting:

1. His wife thought it would be fun. 

2. Ultrasounds are tricky to read.
 

Wife’s Reason For Waiting:

1. My Husband’s Face
My husband unintentionally makes the cutest face when I tease him about the gender. I tell him, “Ok, Baby, if you really want to know the gender…. go to the hospital and have them give your belly an ultrasound!” Makes one of us laugh every time anyhow.

2. The Build Up
Many woman have asked how I can wait. They tell me how they were just too excited and had to find out as soon as possible. I can definitely understand that point of view. I’ve been tempted to find out. But to me, the longer we wait to find out, the more the excitement is building up.  I’m imagining it to be like unwrapping the ultimate Christmas present on Christmas morning. WHAT DID I GET?!?!?

3. I Dislike Microwaves
Growing up in this instant, fast paced world has made me develop a craving for things that take time. This is my way of slowing down. There’s only one way we are going to find out the sex. And that’s to wait until Baby Mowdy makes his/her grand entrance.

4. Extra Motivation During Labor
I’m hoping this will motivate me through labor pains to finally find out.

5. Dreaming About Both
I always thought I’d prefer a baby girl. Dillon is already out numbered three (me, dog, cat) to one and the thought of him being even more out numbered is hilarious to me. Little dresses, pink everywhere, and watching a baby girl fall in love with her daddy makes my heart melt.

But then I think about a baby boy. A tiny version of Dillon. How great would that be? I would love a tiny version of my husband running around the house.

I really don’t care either way. Both have so many positives.

6. Less Stuff
I hate clutter. I hate stuff.  I’ve spent a good amount of my life trying to declutter once and for all. Sometimes I’m convinced I have a clutter hand and everything I touch turns to clutter. I don’t want to be a stressed out mama drowning in clutter. Yellow and green aren’t as much fun to buy, so I’m assuming we will accumulate less stuff in the weeks before baby arrives.

Those are the main reasons that come to mind. I have some others that make sense, like gender neutral baby gear can be reused, it’s fun meeting other people who waited, and I want Dillon to be the one to say, “It’s a ____ !

I’m also not really a planner. The only part of waiting to find out that is bugging me is making a quilt for the baby. I really don’t want a gender neutral one (unless I find the perfect fabric). So I’m stuck with either making both or waiting until the baby comes to make one. We shall see. I do have a lot of free time now. That might be smarter. And hey, then I’d have a baby gift just waiting for the right pregnant lady.

I don’t have mother’s intuition yet about the gender, but anyone who has seen me has guessed BOY. I’m not sure what strategy they are using but so far all I’ve heard was, “it’s a boy, I can tell, and I’m never wrong.”  This is how I’m carrying so far.

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5 Perks I Am Loving About Pregnancy

I am so happy to announce my first trimester of pregnancy went really well. Sure, the grocery store and all of its many smells had me gagging, but other than a constant semi-queasy stomach this pregnancy has been very kind to me so I’m going to brag on it.

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    1. Guilt Free Sick Days

      When I went to the doctor with a stubborn cold, she was insistent that I take three days off of work to rest because I was pregnant. Three days! I really needed those three days for my pregnant body to fight off that persistent common cold, but it was so great that a doctor wrote it down on a piece of paper and very strictly insisted with her Indian accent, “No work for three days! And when you go back, stay away from the germ carrying children!” It was a huge stress relief to call in sick without having that if-you-had-to-you-could-push-through-it guilt.

    2. Gaining weight

      I know this isn’t a popular favorite with many women, but I have struggled with being underweight for close to six years so my body is loving this steady weight gain. I adore filling out my clothes, needing bigger sizes, and just being extra squishy all over. Just for a point of reference, I’m 5 feet 3 inches and started the pregnancy at 98 pounds. I am now weighing in around 108 pounds. I’m going to break the scale because I get on it too frequently.

    3. Strong Baby Kicks

      Or really my husband’s reaction when he can feel a strong baby kick. At times he would put his hand on my belly and to humor me say, “um, maybe?”, when I’d ask if he could feel a kick, but then when a strong kick finally comes along he almost jumps back like, whoa. Felt that one. 

    4. NO PERIODS!

      Oh my goodness. How in the world do us women put up with one a month? These past four months have been heavenly. Is this what being a man feels like?

    5. Thoughtful People

      I have loved experiencing how thoughtful people are to a pregnant woman. It feels like people have been extra cautious about asking me for favors because they know I am already doing quite a bit. Like, building some kidneys. I sometimes joke with my husband while he’s in the kitchen cooking dinner for us, “You keep cooking the chicken, baby. I’m gonna keep working on building our baby’s liver.”  And I’m also going to add, because that makes me sound a tad lazy, that I most likely am the one who cleaned up the dishes created by dinner. We try to tag team it in the kitchen as much as possible.

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