For the first 19 weeks, Dillon was completely on board for waiting to find out the sex until the baby’s big arrival. I noticed the change in his attitude after we had our first ultrasound at 20 weeks along. Before my belly even had the goo on it, I was telling the ultrasound technician, “We don’t want to know the gender! We want to be surprised! We don’t want to know the gender…” I said it repeatedly just for insurance.
She was great. Throughout the entire ultrasound she kept baby’s genitals far away from our confused eyes.
Eventually she had to tell us, “I’m checking the baby down there now so this is when you’ll want to look away.”
No problem. I happily turned and looked at Dillon thinking to myself, surprise are so fun, only to discover he was peeking! He was trying his hardest to decipher penis or vagina. Thankfully the combination of my hand waving to block his vision plus the difficult-to-read ultrasound left him clueless.
I secretly believe Dillon secretly believed he was going to be able to read the ultrasound and find out for himself.
So, he only has two reasons for waiting to find out the sex.
Husband’s Reason For Waiting:
1. His wife thought it would be fun.
2. Ultrasounds are tricky to read.
Wife’s Reason For Waiting:
1. My Husband’s Face
My husband unintentionally makes the cutest face when I tease him about the gender. I tell him, “Ok, Baby, if you really want to know the gender…. go to the hospital and have them give your belly an ultrasound!” Makes one of us laugh every time anyhow.
2. The Build Up
Many woman have asked how I can wait. They tell me how they were just too excited and had to find out as soon as possible. I can definitely understand that point of view. I’ve been tempted to find out. But to me, the longer we wait to find out, the more the excitement is building up. I’m imagining it to be like unwrapping the ultimate Christmas present on Christmas morning. WHAT DID I GET?!?!?
3. I Dislike Microwaves
Growing up in this instant, fast paced world has made me develop a craving for things that take time. This is my way of slowing down. There’s only one way we are going to find out the sex. And that’s to wait until Baby Mowdy makes his/her grand entrance.
4. Extra Motivation During Labor
I’m hoping this will motivate me through labor pains to finally find out.
5. Dreaming About Both
I always thought I’d prefer a baby girl. Dillon is already out numbered three (me, dog, cat) to one and the thought of him being even more out numbered is hilarious to me. Little dresses, pink everywhere, and watching a baby girl fall in love with her daddy makes my heart melt.
But then I think about a baby boy. A tiny version of Dillon. How great would that be? I would love a tiny version of my husband running around the house.
I really don’t care either way. Both have so many positives.
6. Less Stuff
I hate clutter. I hate stuff. I’ve spent a good amount of my life trying to declutter once and for all. Sometimes I’m convinced I have a clutter hand and everything I touch turns to clutter. I don’t want to be a stressed out mama drowning in clutter. Yellow and green aren’t as much fun to buy, so I’m assuming we will accumulate less stuff in the weeks before baby arrives.
Those are the main reasons that come to mind. I have some others that make sense, like gender neutral baby gear can be reused, it’s fun meeting other people who waited, and I want Dillon to be the one to say, “It’s a ____ !”
I’m also not really a planner. The only part of waiting to find out that is bugging me is making a quilt for the baby. I really don’t want a gender neutral one (unless I find the perfect fabric). So I’m stuck with either making both or waiting until the baby comes to make one. We shall see. I do have a lot of free time now. That might be smarter. And hey, then I’d have a baby gift just waiting for the right pregnant lady.
I don’t have mother’s intuition yet about the gender, but anyone who has seen me has guessed BOY. I’m not sure what strategy they are using but so far all I’ve heard was, “it’s a boy, I can tell, and I’m never wrong.” This is how I’m carrying so far.